450 Pounds To Freedom!!!

Do you show Gratitude?

2011-03-15T18:46:00.000-07:00

This week on the T.O.U.C.H. 52:11 show I discussed a topic that is very close to my heart Gratitude. It was important to discuss this because when you are in your weight loss journey you can sometimes forget to appreciate the 5 to 10 pounds that you have lost even though your main goal may be to loose 75 pounds. Thus, taking the time to be grateful for your current progress is crucial.

The Power of Gratitude 4 Ways to Develop an Attitude of Gratitude

•Gratitude is described as personality strength—the ability to be keenly aware of the good things that happen to you and never take them for granted. Grateful individuals express their thanks and appreciation to others in a heartfelt way, not just to be polite. If you possess a high level of gratitude, you often feel an emotional sense of wonder, thankfulness and appreciation for life itself.

•Researchers are finding that individuals who exhibit and express the most gratitude are happier, healthier, and more energetic. Grateful people report fewer symptoms such as headaches, stomachaches, nausea, even acne, and spend more time exercising! And the more a person is inclined towards gratitude, the less lonely, stressed, anxious and depressed he or she will be.

•But, how do you increase your feelings of gratitude when nothing seems to be going right, or life presents great challenges and adversity? Is it really possible to express gratitude when you are not feeling you have anything to be grateful for?

•Although we may acknowledge gratitude’s benefits, it can still feel difficult to feel grateful when we are going through a difficult time. That’s why it makes so much sense to practice gratitude, in good times and bad. It may be human nature to notice all that is wrong or that we lack, but if we give ourselves the chance on a regular basis to notice all of lives gifts and blessings, we can increase our sense of well-being, and create hope and optimism for the future—no matter what is going on.

Here are some ways to start practicing gratitude to improve your well-being:

1. Keep a gratitude journal. At the end of each day, write down 3-5 things from the day you feel grateful for. Simplicity is key. Your baby’s smile, a perfect sunset, the train arriving on time, or your best friend’s laughter. Relish the feeling you get when remembering and writing it down.

2. Express your gratitude. Take the time to share your feelings. Not the simple, polite thank you, but the heartfelt emotions. Tell your friend how her support and sense of humor helps you get through tough times, and how much it means to you. Don’t take your loved ones for granted. Let them know how much you love them and why.

3. Look for what is right about a situation, not what’s wrong. Sure you’re frustrated by the bus being late, but thankfully you have an understanding boss. Service at the restaurant is poor, but you are lucky to afford an evening out surrounded by good friends.

4. Practice gratitude with your family and friends. Although you may not say grace before a meal, encourage each family member to report one thing that happened that day that they feel grateful for. When you hear a friend moaning and complaining, challenge him or her to find the hidden opportunity or silver lining to the situation.

The T.O.U.C.H. 52:11 show is on Blog Talk radio every Monday at 6:30 pm.

Website: www.touch5211inc.org

Life is like a puzzle

2011-03-15T03:47:00.000-07:00

As I continue through my process understanding the puzzle that is my life can sometimes be frustrating. I think all of us have an opportunity to look at our life up close and understand that it is like puzzle pieces that we must take time and put together for completion. The key is to begin early and take your time to become clear about your purpose in life.

Once you do that you must believe in it with all of your heart, and don't let anyone shake you. Even when they aren't there for you, don't support you or don't truly believe in you you must continue to move forward.

Look at the puzzle at a complete part but understand that you are responsible for putting that puzzle together. Focus, remember your purpose and take the time to understand what your goals are.

T.O.U.C.H. 52:11 Inc. radio show "What Bad Habits Say About You"

2011-03-07T17:28:00.000-08:00

On today's show I spoke on the importance of knowing what your bad habits are and how to conquer them.

What Your Bad Habits Say About You
Here are some personality traits that might make a difference, and tips to help you use them to meet your health and fitness goals:

Are you an Extrovert or an Introvert?
If you’re an extrovert, you may have a tendency to let social situations dictate your program or unduly influence your choices—for example, by canceling a workout if your fitness buddy isn’t available. Instead:

•Organize or get involved in friendly competitions that not only challenge your fitness level, but allow you to encourage and help others.
•Indulge your love of people with fitness activities that involve others—aerobics classes, team sports, busy gyms.
•Eat healthfully in social ways: swap tasty but healthy recipes or share meals/desserts when eating out.

Introverts are more oriented toward an inner world of ideas and face the opposite challenge: a stubborn tendency to go it alone, forgoing the support, motivation, and companionship others might offer. Some possible solutions:

•Make reading or learning about fitness a motivational tool that can help energize you
•Balance solitary exercise with some somewhat social exercise, even if it involves just one close friend. You may not want to exercise with a large group in a class setting, but you may be comfortable walking with a good friend.
•Look for quasi-social ways to get support (within your comfort zone), like lurking (or getting brave and posting!)
•Capitalize on your penchant for defining success by measuring your previous accomplishments against current performances.

Are you a careful planner or an impulsive improviser?

Some tips for planners:
•Make a conscious effort to branch out periodically, try new things, and allow for variety, whether picking a fitness activity or shopping for vegetables
•Satisfy your need to bring things to completion by keeping a checklist of the goals you set and accomplish
•Occasionally allow yourself to be "carried along" in both fitness endeavors and fun things, which can be rewards for meeting your goals (This means you must cut back on overbooking your schedule!).

Strategies for improvisers:•Pick workout avenues which allow you to literally change course on quick notice, whether on a jogging path or at a gym filled with diverse classes and equipment.
•Pair up with another improviser who's flexible and open to new activities, but will help hold you accountable in maintaining consistency
•Commit to a regular, specific quantity of weekly exercise while including "wiggle room" in case other activities come up. You might decide, for example, that you’ll work out at least 30 minutes five times a week, thus giving yourself a "pass" to skip exercising one or two days next week.

Are you intuitive or analytical?
Intuitive personalities generally resist record-keeping, assuming they just "know" whether they’ve been good or bad. To be more accurate and ensure success, try to:
•Adopt simple record-keeping systems for fitness and nutrition that have components which make sense to you—portion sizes (simply small, medium, and large), miles walked, etc.
•Rate your success in meeting daily and weekly goals on a scale of 1-10— intuitive tend to see "the big picture"

Although the analytical personality can turn record-keeping into a major obsession, being detail-oriented has its rewards: problem-solving skills that can be used to identify and overcome fitness obstacles.
•Do you set goals that are so unrealistic you can never meet them? Use your talents to break goals and activities into smaller, realistic pieces that can be more easily accomplished.
•Avoid getting bogged down in too much measurement detail. Instead, pick one or two (such as weight or inches lost) to assess once or twice a week.
•Find a way to learn more about health and fitness trends on a regular basis, whether using the library, Internet, or reputable magazine. Like the introvert, you enjoy exposure to new ideas and data. Make a point to learn about any personal issue you grapple with, such as emotional overeating or how to successfully quit smoking

Knowing the type of person you are will assit you with loosing weight in your weight lost program.

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The T.O.U.C.H.52:11 Inc. show airs every Monday at 6:30pm

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T.O.U.C.H. 52:11 radio show Manage your time

2011-02-21T19:44:00.000-08:00

Today on Blog Talk radio the T.O.U.C.H. 52:11 Inc. show the topic for today was

Manage Yourself in No Time

Do a Realistic Time Audit
Time management experts stress that before you can make needed changes in the way you manage time, you need to look at how you spend your time now. What activities or tasks are taking up the biggest chunks of your life? What items do you hate or put off most? Are you allowing others to dictate uses for your time that aren’t productive or don't fit your agenda? By doing a brutally honest assessment, you can begin to change the way you manage yourself in relation to time. (And my motto in life is that you can get all things back your money, homes, cars, jobs even a mate but you can never get back your time. Make sure you are using it to the best of your abilities).

Personalize your to-do list
Some people thrive using a daily to-do list, which they construct either at the end of the previous day or first thing the next morning. Some people combine a to-do list with a calendar or schedule. Others prefer a "running" to-do list that is continually being updated. Or, you may prefer a combination of both, whatever method works best for you. Don't be afraid to try a new system — you just might find one that works even better than your present one! (Remember that you need to complete you today list before going to bed so you don’t have to continue items from the day before).

Don't waste waiting time
Waiting is inevitable, but you can find ways to put even a few minutes of waiting to good use. Whether holding on the phone or waiting for play practice to end, you can make lists, sort mail, go over your schedule, and complete other small but necessary tasks. At home, sort the laundry or the mail while catching up on the news, talk on the phone while preparing dinner, etc. (this includes exercising give it your all because you accountable to yourself).

Stock up as much as possible
This includes the right types of food, shopping for the correct shoes, work out outfit etc. Weight lost program requires planning and having all the items needed to ensure success.

Have a system
your program must have a system in place and planned, there is no way things can be haphazard and expect to loose weight.

Multi-task when feasible
The key to your program must be multitasking. You have to learn how to deal with your emotional feelings, frustration, and sadness as you loose weight. This takes much practice and skill.
Don’t be a perfectionist. Some things are worth perfecting, but often good enough is just that— good enough. What’s more, perfectionism—paying unnecessary attention to detail—can be a form of procrastination. I find myself still a perfectionist but I have to monitor it as I go.

Learn to say ‘No'
Most of us have trouble saying this little word. But if you focus on the goals that are important to you— like incorporating a fitness routine into your life— saying no to the unimportant gets easier. It may even just be a matter of timing— as in saying, ‘Not now.’ NO is the most powerful word you can say.

Manging your time is the most important key to your weight lost program.

T.O.U.C.H. 52:11 Inc. show Monday's 6:30pm on Blog Talk radio
Website: www.touch5211inc.org

Pretty Girls Rock conference

2011-02-20T15:33:00.000-08:00

T.O.U.C.H. 52:11 Inc was asked to speak at the Pretty Girls Rock conference in Columbus Georgia Feb 19, 2011.

I had the opportunity to speak about Healthy relationships, how to groom yourself as a teen, and how to have good self esteem.
The young ladies loved having the chance to speak their mind, asking how to boost their self esteem when they sometimes feel down as well as, how to not have sex just because they were asked. Our conversations were honest and truthful and everyone felt like they were heard and their comments were considered.
I love my purpose and thank God everyday for the opportunity to encourage and explain how no matter where your life is you can always redirect it to the path it needs to go.

Change it up!!

2011-02-16T18:57:00.000-08:00

I decided to change my look. I wanted a different hair color...... why?
just because :)

I decided to perm my hair out and just wear it straight. I love it, my hair has grown so much and it makes me feel good.

If you are ever in a situation in which you want to change things up do so. Remember that change and happiness is a choice. One must allow themselves an opportunity to recreate themselves when needed.

Do it in joy!!!

Malcolm student of the month!!!!

2011-02-16T18:42:00.000-08:00

This post is just for my son he was just named Student of the Month!!!!!

I am so proud of him. I have been so stressed this year his 4th grade year. It has been a bit of a struggle for him and I so want him to achieve. I am stressed and frustrated alot because I know he misses being with friends and having alot of play timesome because he helps me with workshops and conferences that I do for others, since it's only him and I, but he never complains. He is my photographer, encourager and inspiration. I look at him and think about the doctors who told me I would never have children.

So Malcolm mommie LOVES you and I am so proud of you keep up the excellant work. Thank you for helping me lead by example!!!!

Feb 14th, Radio show on blog talk radio

2011-02-16T18:28:00.000-08:00

Feb 14th T.O.U.C.H. 52:11 Inc. show on Blog Talk radio

Confessions of a Reformed Procrastinator

Procrastination can be the death of your weight loss program. The key to remember is that procrastination comes but you must know how to regulate it once it arrives. When beginning your weight loss program make sure you have rules for breaking procrastination

1. When in doubt act- there will be many times in which you will doubt yourself and feel that your weight loose isn’t working. When that feeling comes over you stop, think and begin by acting. Acting includes speaking positive thoughts to your self, ensuring your exercise program is consistent, and watch your food intake. There are days in which I still have days in which I doubt myself but I make sure the doubt last quickly and move on.

2. Erase your To-Do List every day or week and start over. Running lists end up with items that stick around too long, In establishing a weight lost program understanding what is needed versus what you have done will ensure the weight comes off. Having a plan and sticking to it is key.

3. Hang around action-oriented people. People with energy often have a thrill for life, and it’s easy to pick up some of that spirit. And this goes to the old saying you are who you hang around. If you are determined, motivated and focused make sure you surround yourself with the same type of individualuals.

4. Get plenty of exercise and sleep. Nothing makes you want to put things off more than feeling groggy or drained. IN the counseling that I give to clients I also tell them to make sure they are getting enough sleep. This question always leads to deep discussions bc many people don’t realize how little sleep they are getting thus their ability to function is lower.

5. Filter down and simplify. Does everything on your To-Do List belong there? As lists get longer, we procrastinators can freeze up and not know which way to turn first. For those of us who have or is suffering from obesity will often become overwhelmed concerning all of the things we need to accomplish when it comes to loosing weight and towards our program. (speak on how I was overwhelmed).

6. Right now – Before I begin think about the things you have put off earlier today. I have so many people who state to me I want you to counsel me later this week or next week, month because being a addict we tend to want to put off till tomorrow what should be done today. Don’t continue to believe you have time to hold off and not address the issues of your weight. Right now, today this moment will change your life forever. (talk about me).

The T.O.U.C.H. 52:11 Inc show is on Blog Talk radio every Monday at 6:30pm. This show and all shows can be downloaded for free.

"Remember Let's TOUCH the world together"!!!

T.O.U.C.H. 52:11 Inc show now on Monday's!!

2011-02-07T15:11:00.000-08:00

Please join me on Monday's at 6:30pm for the T.O.U.C.H. 52:11 Inc. show on Blog Talk radio.

If you would like to phone in and listen by phone call 347.539.5427

Today's show is Key ways's to loose weight and Five ways to love your body!!!

Malcolm's derby car race

2011-01-31T17:20:00.000-08:00

What a wonderful weekend, my son truly made me feel good. We e went to Malcolm's Boy Scout derby race. Malcolm and his dad took a piece of wood and created a car from scratch that took time and creativity. The outcome was wonderful, Malcolm raced his car and was so proud of what he created with his dad.

The joy on his face along with his sportsmanship made me feel great as a mother. His was motivated and excited about beginning a project and completing it.

I love being a mom!!!!

Break the chains!!!

2011-01-29T17:40:00.000-08:00

This has been such an emotional week for me. So much has gone on that came out of left field. I just couldn't believe everything that I found out. It was as if my past was coming to hunt me.

But I stayed strong and realized that I have a choice. Not like before when I allowed my low self esteem to enter into the picture. I understood that I am in charge of this ship and I'm determined to ensure this ship doesn't go under. Unlike this picture I will not feel chained and restricted from moving forward.

There are some walks in life you must make alone...the key is to be sure you don't take people with you that aren't supposed to go!!!

Questions

2011-01-27T15:43:00.000-08:00

I have been struggling this week with some major questions that I had to ask myself. It hasn't been a comfortable place to be and I haven't been here in a LONG time. It has really been tempting to return to my old habits of eating the problem away, but my years of training my mind, thoughts and emotions had to come into play.

I had to face the issue head on and really think about what I want and most importantly what I will or will not tolerate.Sometimes the past comes not to make you fall backward but to see how much you have really learned. Today I was sitting in my office doing some work and a moment of depression came over me. The old me would have let the depression win. I would have laid down and surrendered to it. NOT TODAY, I immediately remembered where my strength comes from, and went to the gym and accomplished a wonderful day on the elliptical machine I hit a all time best. The feeling of accomplishment I felt was so full filling.

The hard days will come, but we must remember the source of strength we need comes from within. You must be still breathe and allow the authority in you to take over so that you can become one with it. I won today, yet I know tomorrow is near. I know whatever comes my way I will be able to take it down and win!!

Forgiveness

2011-01-19T07:26:00.000-08:00

Forgiveness is a strong important feeling that we must and should all confront and try to live in our everyday life. I have had so many issues that have happen to me from people that caused me to close myself in and not take the time and evaluate why they did what they did.

Well today is a new day. I have decided to release all the anger, the hurt, and try to be understanding and realize many times those who hurt you are hurting themselves. Forgiveness is something God wants and expects all of us to become active in. It's amazing how it frees up your ability to breathe, to experience true love as well as, life in it's fullness.

I notice that once you make a decision to forgive many others pull back and try to convince you not to. Yet I must stay focused and live my life the way that is best for me. I have to remember I am no longer the "big girl" that will accept anything from everybody. I have let go of being a people please. It's a great feeling...

Will you join me?

T.O.U.C.H. 52:11 Inc Jan 18th radio show

2011-01-19T07:11:00.000-08:00

On Jan 18th T.O.U.C.H. 52:11 Inc show on Blog Talk radio spoke on the topic of Think Your Too Heavy To Exercises?

I wanted to share some highlights from the show.

Priority #1: Safety
Problem: One of the biggest mistakes people commit is making assumptions about what they can’t do without checking with someone who knows how to determine that. You may have physical problems, ranging from medical conditions that impose unavoidable limitations on what you can do, to the typical after-effects of years of obesity and a sedentary lifestyle, such as chronic inflexibility, weakness, and muscle pain. These problems may rule out one kind of exercise or another. But it would be unusual if there is truly nothing you can do.

Solution: Don’t be one of those people. Tell your doctor you want to start exercising and ask for advice on what to do and what to avoid. Create a fitness plan for yourself for approval from your doctor if you aren’t comfortable with having it created by a trainer.

Priority #2: Find Something That Fits YOU Problem: You just can’t seem to find a good place to start. if you get down on the floor, you may not be able to get up again by yourself (been there, done that), and your body just doesn’t bend or let you get into the positions illustrated. You’ve been to the gym, but you don’t even fit into half the machines there, and you felt like you were going to throw up after two minutes on the elliptical machine.These are real true issues that I want you to consider because remember this show is here to educate you and to let you know about feelings you may experience not to scare you but to keep you prepared and focused. After having my gastric bypass in 1997 I wanted to exercise so badly but I didn’t know where to turn or what to do. To top it all off I felt ashamed of the way I looked even though I was desperately trying to change my looks. You must get past those feelings and focus on your health and your goals.

Solution: Almost every exercise can be modified so you can do it (or something like it) in a way that meets your needs and present capacities.

Above all, don’t make it easy to talk yourself out of starting an exercise program by getting confused about the difference between a challenge and an insurmountable obstacle. Loosing masses amount of weight comes down to a mindset and how you speak to your situation. You must stay positive and focused for it to be achieved.

When I began my journey to loose 200 pounds I was nervous and excited but as time proceeded there were times I was tired, discouraged and wondered if I would ever make it. Know that you can do it and if you stay on your plan you will achieve your ultimate goal!!!

*These show or any other show I have done can be downloaded on Blog Talk radio for free.

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Snow day in Atlanta!!!

2011-01-10T17:57:00.000-08:00

What a fun day for me. It was reported that it would snow in Atlanta. I thought we would have a little snow but we weren't prepared for all of the snow and ice. It began about 7:00pm last night and snowed all night. When we woke this morning it was so exciting to look at the window with my son and see all of the beautiful snow.

I love the way the snow puts a peace to everything and quiets all to appreciate God's beauty. As always I must tell you how my loosing weight changes the way I view everything. As I was geting dressed to go outside with my son I smiled at doing something that is so secondary to many. I was able to put on a pair of pants with sweats, a shirt along with a sweatshirt,with my coat on top. I remembered how when I was 450 pounds I would often go out and be cold because I couldn't layer myself with clothes because everything wouldn't fit because of my size and forget wearing a coat, I would often not wear a coat because it was so uncomfortable..

So along with the beauty of the day, I found beauty with in myself. If you are the mist of your new Lifestyle Living program DON'T STOP!! keep going and maintain that motivation from within. Make yourself accountable

IT ALL BEGINS WITH YOU!!!

January 4th Blog Talk Radio

2011-01-04T19:16:00.000-08:00

Today on Blog Talk Radio I spoke on the following topic:

Goals that help and hurt

Take a close look at the words that express your goals.
What are your goals? have you written them down? remember if it is just in your head they cant be accomplished. Look through your goals do you see the following words NO, NOT, NEVER, STOP,REDUCE, LIMIT or QUIT if these negative words appear pay attention to them because they can play an important role in the way you have set your goals what you could be doing is setting yourself up for problems

Do your goals deprive you of something you want (or think you want)?Make sure your not setting yourself up for failure, deprivation, resentment and rebelliousness. Have you created a forbidden list that includes certain sweets you can’t eat and when you finally do allow yourself to eat the sweet you binge? Remember that Lifestyle Living is being realistic, allow yourself certain items in moderation.

Do your goals set you up for failure?
Make sure you goals are not created in a negative tone a all or nothing situation even down to the smallest detail. (If so this will lead you to enjoy it now and worry about it later, next week, month or year). You will feel like you can’t control your own behavior but not be sure what to do about it.

Framing your goals in positive terms means you will reach them much easier. Positive terms will allow you to do the following:
• Focus on what you really want, and on what is helpful and achievable. This creates positive energy and momentum instead of feelings of deprivation and resentment.
• Adjust your plans when you have the inevitable slip-up or bad day. Instead of giving up when you mess up, you can make small changes to balance things out.
• Check in with yourself before you act. Ask yourself if what you are about to eat will help you reach your goals.
• Have true freedom of choice, rather than forcing yourself to rely on will power alone. We just aren’t designed to white-knuckle our way through life, always resisting what we think we really want.

Remember to create your goals start small and increase as you go.

To hear this show or any other show you can go to my website at www.touch5211inc.org and hit the Blog Talk Radio and type in the TOUCH 5211/Sandra Kelley and you can download this show and any other show for free.

Have you excercised today?

2011-01-04T09:30:00.000-08:00

I woke up today ready to do my exercises and I make sure that whether I wanted to or not it must be done in order for my life to contain Lifestyle Living.

This is a term I use with my business T.O.U.C.H. 52:11 Inc. Lifestyle Living means that for the remainder of your life one must change everything in their environemnt to be sure they have healthy living.

It may be harder some days more than others to get prepared to move forward, but the key is to just start. Set goals but remember the goals must start small before your larger goals can be met. NO matter what your untilmate goal is know you can do it but you first MUST BEGIN!!!!

It's here!!!

2011-01-03T18:22:00.000-08:00

WE MADE IT!!!! we are in a new year and I'm so excited about the possibilities that God has in store for me. I am ready to work hard to show my discipline and to produce changes that must be made.

We should be ready to walk in expectation everyday and believe that THIS is our moment, our day, our hour. Never say to yourself not now, it can't happen, it won't be me because that's not true. You must believe in the purpose that is within you.

2011 is here and is wide open as this rose waiting for us to explore, and produce the fruit that it within us. I CHALLENGE you to make change, to stand out where everyone else wants to give up.

YOUR TIME IS HERE AND NOW....MOVE ON IT AND PRODUCE IN YOUR PURPOSE!!!!

Thank you 2010!!!

2010-12-31T19:56:00.000-08:00

What a year 2010 has been for me. I have truly leaned on the Lord and trusted in him fully. He required me to get out of my comfort zone and required me to make some hard choices.

I had to leave some "friends" behind, I changed where I lived, I moved into a new home, I had to change where I worshiped, received many offers for my business, all of these decisions where hard, but I trusted in what the Lord was doing in my life and followed his direction. Because of this my life has prospered in so many ways.

As I move into 2011, it will be my time to move into the manifestation of the promise God has given me. I am ready and so excited and what he has planned.

I chose this picture because it shows how I feel, it is as if God shined down his light just for me and I grew into a beautiful flower.

In 2010 I laid the foundation, so in 2011 watch me be victorious!!!!

T.O.U.C.H. 52:11 Inc website

2010-12-31T19:44:00.000-08:00

T.O.U.C.H. 52:11 Inc WEBSITE IS UP AND RUNNING!!!!

I'm excited to announce my website www.touch5211inc.org this website is dedicated to all of those individuals who need encouragement, motivation and education.

Take time and explore the website and feel free to leave a comment so that we can assist you with achieving Lifestyle Living.

T.O.U.C.H. 52:11 Inc. website is also announcing our Lifestyle Living contest. The winner received free consultations from myself. Please refer to the website for all of the details.

Thank you for all your support and in 2011 T.O.U.C.H. 52:11 Inc will continue to provide you inspiration, education and dedication.

Let's turn the page!!!

2010-12-29T18:51:00.000-08:00

As we close out 2010 and enter 2011, don't be afraid to let go and begin to look at what is ahead for you. Begin to plan your wildest dreams for yourself in 2011. All of the things that you want to do, plan to do and may be scared to do, push yourself towards it.

Think outside of the box, become creative and let yourself move mountains. 2011 should already be here in your thought process, dream those impossible dreams and go for it.

GO AHEAD AND LIFT THE PAGE!!!!!!

My mom and son

2010-12-29T18:38:00.000-08:00

Today was alot of fun, Malcolm and I met with my mom and had lunch. This of course thrilled Malcolm because he "loves" his Nano. We always laugh alot, smile alot and have a great time. We decided to go to Olive Garden and the food was so good. It took me back years when I use to love the Olive Garden because I would eat so much (especially the bread). But now I can eat only a little of the salad and the meal itself. After lunch of course my stomach hurt, I didn't get to finish all of my meal (but I never do) but meals are no longer what they use to be. I use them more as an opportunity to talk and socialize. Not come just to eat because I don't enjoy it like I once did. Because of my surgery (gastric bypass) the food no longer becomes enjoyable it's just what you have to do to live. It was a great day and nothing was better than seeing my mom with my son (who at the age of 10 is just as tall as my mom).

If you haven't spent time with family do so soon!!!

Christmas 2010

2010-12-29T18:23:00.000-08:00

Christmas was wonderful this year. It was good to be with family and friends. I felt comfortable and energetic while playing with my niece, nephew and son. I loved wearing my jeans as well as my form fitting shirt. For many this would be no big deal but for me the girl that once weighed 450 pounds I felt like everybody else. And for someone who suffered from morbidly obesity it was great.

Many ask me what it is like to loose over 200 pounds. The only way I can explain it is to section it off in experiences. Whether it's wanting to take pictures, wearing jeans,putting on my seatbelt, playing on the floor with my son, that's the beauty of loosing the weight, not just loosing the weight itself.

Christmas 2010 felt great and was fullfilling!!!

Malcolm's Christmas

2010-12-27T09:22:00.000-08:00

What a wonderful Christmas we had. About 2 years ago I made the decision that Malcolm could have no more than 4 gifts for Christmas so that he could understand Christmas isn't about him but about Christ. So Santa bought him a wrestling belt, Tex deck skate boards, a skate pool, PSP and 3 games (I know it's over 4) but he did really well this year.

He was so excited and appreciated everything. We began the morning with thanking GOD for his ultimate gift, his son. We blessed him for all of the many blessings he has given us this year and we had a wonderful day. It was great and exciting for him.

Merry Christmas!!!

Gingerbread house

2010-12-27T09:17:00.000-08:00

For Christmas my son decided he wanted to create a gingerbread house. I thought well how hard could it be? IT WAS EXHAUSTING!! It was so much work we had no idea what we were doing but the most important thing was that we bonded. We worked together and the house came out great.

As always I think back to my old life while we were working. I had the energy to help him, we did everything on the floor, my patience was there and we had fun.

Something like this may be ordinary for someone else but for me I think how wonderful God is for allowing me to be healthy enough to share this time with my son.

FREEDOM PARTY!!!

2010-12-27T09:06:00.000-08:00

I decided to have a Freedom Party to celebrate the ability to make it through 11 1/2 years of a very hard marriage. It was wonderful being with friends who understood my need to celebrate not that my divorce was finally completed but that I survived through everything. The 200 pound weight gain, abuse, lost of homes, cars, jobs, self esteem etc. There were times I didn't think I would make it out with my sanity but I did. There were people I invited but they didn't come because they thought I was celebrating divorce but I wasn't I was celebrating my strength and wisdom to move forward with my life.

So I want to thank my friends who came, encouraged me and helped me celebrate the wonderful direction God is taking in my life. There were many issues I needed to resolve and close out in 2010 and I did so.

I'm ready for 2011 and my NEW BEGINNING!!!

Remember Frosty?

2010-12-14T19:34:00.000-08:00

OHHH Frosty the snowman..... Remember the feeling you had as a child at Christmas, the wonderment, the love, fun, excitement, joy? What has happen to that feeling?

Times have changed since we were kids, we are rushing to and from work, staying later hours, sitting in traffic, dealing with stress, helping the kids with homework etc. we often miss the beauty of the season. Are you noticing the homes that have beautiful lights on them?, do you see the pretty Christmas trees that sit in the windows of homes?, are you noticing the Christmas music on the radio?

If you have said no to these, make sure you stop and think back to your childhood and how good this time of year felt to you and embrace it. Enjoy the fact that more people will be happier this time of the year, the music is uplifting, and we want to give more.

I know things are difficult, the economy is affecting everyone but YOU CAN MAKE THE DECISION TO BE HAPPY it's up to you......Make the best choice.

T.O.U.C.H. 52:11 Inc. is the winner!!!

2010-12-13T19:41:00.000-08:00

I'M SO EXCITED!!!! T.O.U.C.H. 52:11 Inc. IS THE WINNER OF THE INFINITE DESIGN WEBSITE CONTEST!!!!! Once again God is truly blessing my business. I entered T.O.U.C.H. 52:11 Inc. in the contest for a free website. I wrote why my business deserved to be the winner of the website and my business was chosen!!!

This website will take my business to new levels. Many of my clients and the clients I would like to work with have a life that exist mostly on the Internet. They are individuals who aren't able to go out and work every day because of their weight. They have no friends and very little family that helps them. I want to be that contact that they can turn to who understands their hurt and pain.

This site will also be the avenue for my business to continue with our Life Skill training classes that I have for teens. The classes conducted include finances, self esteem, how to have good study habits, leadership, and depression just to name a few. T.O.U.C.H. 52:11 Inc. has conducted these classes for Henry, Clayton and Fayette GA counties as well as, in Columbus GA. Two weeks ago I completed the South GA youth summit in Macon, Ga in which I spoke to 200 youth. We have many more seminar's and summits beginning in January 2011!!

I am ready for the territory the Lord is allowing me to enter into!!!

The joy of allowing myself to "feel"

2010-12-13T19:28:00.000-08:00

There is nothing like the feeling of true happiness, joy and peace. There are so many wonderful opportunities coming my way for my business that I'm so excited!!

I just wanted to speak today on the joy of truly allowing myself to "feel". Having suffered from obesity my entire life I learned how not to feel anything so that I could survive. Whether it was pain, hurt, and sorrow I wouldn't put myself in the position to feel anything.

I'm so grateful that I am allowing myself to feel joy and walking completely on faith to the journey God has planted my feet on.

JOY COMPLETE JOY....ALLOW YOURSELF TO FEEL AND EMBRACE IT!!

Malcolm's giving heart!!

2010-12-10T19:19:00.000-08:00

I had to focus my baby today. He wanted to make sure he was able to particpate in his school's Toy/can food drive. He was so proud that he was able to give. I am so proud of him. He has such a giving heart.
I LOVE YOU MAL!!!!

Women's Empowerment Meeting

2010-12-10T19:02:00.000-08:00

I was so excited to be invited to be the keynote speaker at the Women's Empowerment Meeting on Nov 21st, 2010. It was a wonderful meeting for women who are creating their business as well as, women who want to have a business but don't know exactly what steps to take.

Thus, I spoke to the group about staying encouraged, knowing the difference between a business and their purpose. I spoke about how to network with others with the most important key being "listening" not just talking. I gave them information on how to not only have business ideas, but taking that idea and to formulate their business. I enjoyed being among women who understood to create God's promise in your life that one must
"THINK OUTSIDE THE BOX"

It was a wonderful opportunity and it was so important to me to give encouragement to to others. If you have been given a purpose to create don't stop no matter what others say. YOU CAN DO IT!!!!

Sigma Gamma Rho Sorority Inc. Founders Day

2010-11-13T15:35:00.000-08:00

Yesterday November 12th my sorority celebrated our founders day. I posted it all over FB, I spoke with my sorority sisters and met many that I hadn't known that I found while online. It was great.

It took me back to Jackson State University where I pledged and I thought about my weight and how I felt so different from everyone else. Yet, even then I failed terribly in hiding my weight issues but I did whatever I could to over compensate in every other area. I was president of my chapter Alpha Tau for three years. I was respected and know for my detail and order in which I handled our sorority business.

I would look at other young women and felt so sad that I couldn't be like them, and be pretty like them but I was pretty in other ways (my performance).

Make sure you notice your kids, friends, nieces, nephews etc while they are away in college or in high school and now even middle school. Notice there self esteem and how they handle what's going on around them.

As I look back on that time I loved my experience at Jackson State and I am so proud to be a Sigma Gamma Rho, and for the first time in my life I'm proud to be me.

Love who you are, where you are and if you see areas you don't like it's time to change your atmosphere and create the environment you want for yourself!!

Love you sorors....EEEYYYIIPPPPPPPPPP!!!!! "Greater Service Greater Progress"

2010-10-30T17:28:00.000-07:00

So many wonderful things are happening for me!! I'm so excited about what God is doing in my life. I choose this picture because I love pictures that show roads that never end. No matter what the the weather, how bleak it may look outside the road will continue.

I am experiencing how their is so much more out there for me. Think whats out there for you......

The beauty of rain

2010-10-25T18:14:00.000-07:00

Today I woke up to rain and thunderstorms. I immediately thought if I should reconsider what I laid out for my son to wear to school, what I would wear to work, how dark it would be outside, how messy it would be, how it would be hard to see,if I would get wet....and then I stopped and thought about it again.

I corrected my thinking, and considered the wonderful process of growing that would be able to take place, those things that were dirty would become clean,the renewing of the environment.

Look at the rain as an cleansing of your spirit, keep your attitude positive, stay focused, and anticipate your next move. Because it's a wonderful process of God.

The next time it rains see the beauty, not the inconvenience.

Love who you are and what you see!!

2010-10-24T18:49:00.000-07:00

I had a moment today and I wanted to share. Lately, I have had alot of people I dont know state how pretty I am. I put it to the side of my thoughts said thank you and moved on. But on the way home from church I could hear the Lord telling me to just take a picture. I did so and when I looked I was surprised at what I saw. I looked free, happy and at peace.
With all I have been through it has taken alot for this feeling to come through. My inner spirit is coming loser and closer to the surface and it feels wonderful. The old me is disappering and I'm so excited about that.

When you are feeling low, think about what you have accomplished and look at yourself and love what you see!!

Fun on the beach!!!

2010-10-10T18:38:00.000-07:00

To close summer out I decided to surprise my son with a trip to Florida. I gave him a kiss put him on the school bus and sent him to school on a Friday. What he didn't know, was that all week I waited until he went to sleep and packed our clothes, and made arrangements for our trip. It was special for me because he was turning 10 years old. It has always been my dream to take Malcolm to the beach. So once he was on the bus I drove to the rental car place rented a car and went to pick him up at school by 8:30am. He was shocked to see me it was great!!

We left the school and drove to Florida. We stayed with my sorority sister Shana and the next day drove to Tampa and spent the day at the beach. It was wonderful to watch my son put his feet in the ocean for the first time. He was nervous and a little unsure, but after about 3 minutes he was hooked!! He stayed in the ocean the rest of the day.

We also walked the beach, collected sea shells, talked and walked the pier. It was relaxing and I truly thank God for the opportunity to give him a birthday surprise he will never forget.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY MALCOLM!!!

T.O.U.C.H. 52:11 Inc. Newsletter October 2010

2010-10-03T18:51:00.000-07:00

Newsletter
“450 pounds to freedom”

The purpose of the T.O.U.C.H. 52:11 Inc. is to educate society on what it feels like to be obese in a society that doesn’t accept individuals for who they are. I speak on my experience of once weighing 450 pounds and all of the challenges I faced as well as, the challenges I faced after loosing over 200 pounds.

The purpose of T.O.U.C.H. 52:11 Inc. is to leave you motivated, encouraged and feeling as though it is possible to take on any weight challenge you may be experiencing. When creating T.O.U.C.H. 52:11 Inc. I was very cautious to make sure it is a safe place in which those suffering from the addiction of obesity can find a source of help not hindrance. I am a life coach and self esteem expert for those who feel as though it’s impossible to loose masses amount of weight. I ask you to join us in the fight to educate ourselves and saving lives through the power of self will and sheer motivation.

When Too Much Exercise Becomes a Problem Compulsive Exercise and Exercise Bulimia
Exercise bulimia is when compulsive exercise becomes more than a desire to get into shape or manage ones weight. Those who suffer use exercise to purge to compensate for eating binges and often work out multiple times per day three or four hours at a time. The difference between compulsive exercise v/s exercise bulimia:
Many use the terms interchangeably they truly are two different things. Compulsive exercises is when individuals build their lives around working out and are genuinely distressed if they can’t exercise as much as they feel they need to (or should be). Exercise bulimia is similar, but involves eating binges. People who suffer from extreme bulimia often binge on food and then exercise obsessively to make up for it. Exercise becomes a way to control calories, justify eating, and punish oneself for eating too much or eating the “wrong” things.
Both conditions are indicated by the following symptoms:

• Choosing to exercise instead of going to work or enjoying social activities with friends or loved ones
• Refusing to take any rest or recovery days, even when injured
• Continuing to exercise even when ill
• Exercising to the point of exhaustion
• Never exercising for fun
• Experiencing severe stress and emotional upset, including depression, if unable to exercise

Associated Health Problems
Exercise is usually a good thing, but rest and recovery are very important, too. Excessive exercise can weaken the body and cause a host of problems, including:
• Fatigue
• Suppressed immune system
• Lack of menstruation (amenorrhea) in women due to a lack of body fat
• Reproductive problems
• Heart problems (such as muscle wasting and rhythm problems)
• Dehydration
• Arthritis
• Osteoporosis
• Stress fractures and sprains

Treatment Options
• Exercise bulimia can be a symptom of a much bigger problem. Studies have fund that suffers come from families where food was used as a way of controlling behavior and battles surrounding food. Treatments include support groups, cognitive behavior therapy, psychotherapy, and or medication such as anti depressants. Remember to allow exercise to serve a purpose in your life-not be the center of it.
To learn more about eating and exercise disorders and receive a referral to a health practitioner in your area, contact the National Eating Disorders Association at: 1-800-931-2237 or visit: www.edap.org.

Contact Info:
Sandra Kelley M.S. Education
Email: touch52eleven@gmail.com
Phone: (262)52TOUCH
Blog: 450poundstofreedom.blogspot.com
You Tube: Up close and Personal with Sandra Kelley (Press control and click below)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fg0csTd8xQg

What does a Stop Sign mean to you?

2010-08-22T18:28:00.000-07:00

This is how I saw an issue in my life that I couldn't face. We all have have things in our life that we try to go around, not address, and play as though it doesn't exist. I am no different. There was something in my life that I tried to remove emotionally for the last four years, yet I wouldn't let it go. I couldn't deal with the emotion, and I couldn't face the truth.

The situation was something that caused such hurt and depression that I never addressed it. It was a straight link to my over eating. To be sure I didn't over eat I would ignore the problem. It was also the elephant in the room, but I ignored it.

The stop sign represents where I am in my life now. My former thought process would have seen this stop sign and I would not have moved any further. But accepting that God has NO limits, I can look past the stop sign and begin to wonder what is beyond, what am I missing, what is out there for me that is waiting on me to explore.

In life if you have a "stop sign" in your life that represents excuses, bad relationships, hurt, pain, addiction whatever it is, make sure you look beyond and allow yourself to wonder what else is out there just for you.

Sometimes the stop sign is there to help you let go of your past so that you can move to your future!!

Holding on to the fire

2010-08-12T19:08:00.000-07:00

How do you on to the fire when you are pulled in so many directions?

Well that is the question I am asking myself daily. I know the ministry God has given me. That is to educate society about the world of obesity as well as, encourage those who are going down that journey. I must do all of this while handling day to day life. Between work, working on my second Masters degree and trying to be the best mom I can, I can become stressed. But I bless the Lord that I turn to something positive instead of food when those feelings come. The last six months for me have been a whirlwind but I must keep my inner core calm while watching the tornado swirl around me. T.O.U.C.H. 52:11 Inc. always keeps burning within me. The fire is huge and buring brightly because I know my purpose.

This week think about your purpose. Are you living it? working it? encouraging others with it? or are you allowing your fire to be burned out daily by work, stress, no determination, self doubt?

Remember to always keep your fire buring.

Malcolm and Jasmine

2010-08-09T16:48:00.000-07:00

They bring me such joy.

If you are a regular reader of my blog you know that I love my son Malcolm and I wanted to introduce you to my niece Jasmine (my nephew Samuel wasn't there the day they took this picture). I love seeing these two together. They remind me what joy truly is. The laugh, joke with one another and love on each other. I enjoy watching my son be a man, and make sure his cousin has what she needs, buys things for her, holds the door and her hand. It's truly sweet.

I wanted to be sure they are highlighted today as the "superstars for the week".

I ask God to cover them and all the children who are returning to school this week. May they have restful sleep, steady focus and determination. Cover the buses they ride on, the hallways they walk in, and cover the food they eat. Bless the teachers, staff and leadership in their schools and let them take time throughout the day and ask you for wisdom in all they do.

In Jesus, name we pray ....AMEN

Loving Life

2010-07-24T19:32:00.000-07:00

There is no time like time with my mom. I have been so busy with work and being mommie myself that it was great to have time with my mom and son at lunch. My life lately has been a world wind. The favor of God is truly all over my home, work, and most of all my attitude. I am in such a good place when it comes to thinking about myself. I truly have a positive self evaluation and I am learning to accept compliments from others without thinking "do they really mean that" or "I don't really look that nice like they said". I am learning to embrace it all and do so with confidence.

I'm so grateful that God has given me this opportunity to start over and in the process help others do the same!!

Enjoying Six Flags without obese worries!!

2010-04-06T17:34:00.001-07:00

What are obese worries you ask? terrible sweating, horrible pain in your legs, knees and feet from the walking, shortness of breathe, hungry all the time, feeling depessed and overwhelmed at the sheer length of the park, having to hold everyone up because you have to rest every so many yards.... But that wasn't a worry for me today!

What a fun day we had today at Six Flags. This is spring break for my son and I decided to take him to his favorite place Six Flags. It was such a reminder at how far I have come. First we had to park close to 2 miles from the entrance. The old me would have wanted to merely give up and not even walk to the front. The new me passed by the trolley that was their to pick us up an I walked with pride praising God the entire time that I had the ability to walk without pain. Arriving at the entrance I went through the turn style without getting stuck (which has happen to me in the past).

Once arriving in the park the first thing my son wanted to do was go on the Goliath roller coaster which was at the top of a huge hill. The entire day we walked and walked and walked. It was 80 degrees and we were sweating. But all I could think about was that my skin was bleeding from rubbing of the skin between my legs, and under my breast. At one point I actually stretched my arms out besides me and really felt the slight breeze of the wind. On one of the rides, I actually sat on a bench and waited for my son to ride a ride. While everyone else sat under shade, I purposely sat on a bench in the sun. I love to feel the sun, after so many years of running from it because of the weight.

We even left the park and went back to the car to get something to eat and rest a minute before going back to the park. It seems so much easier to do everything in the park but the fact that I could excited me.

I decided to go on a ride called the Ninja. I haven't been on a roller coaster in over a decade. It was fun and I felt like I was traveling back in time. I also remembered not being able to ride on a roller coaster.

As we left, we were tired and hot but decided to walk back to the car!! We passed up the trolley and just walked and enjoyed the fun of the day.

The day was fun and a blessing to spend time with my son. I am so happy I am able to be that fun mom who can do things with him an not just watch from the side lines.
Thank you God for allowing me to redeem time!!!!

DO YOU WANT TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE FOREVER? PLEASE READ....

2010-03-27T18:24:00.000-07:00

Achieving Lifestyle Living can seem so hard to achieve but it is possible. For those of you out there who really want to make a difference in your life and improve your health there is a contest for you!

T.O.U.C.H. 52:11, INC, is having a Lifestyle Living contest. This contest will require you to meet certain criteria.
Please email your name,age,DOB,phone number,weight,state(location),and clothing size. Once received an email will be sent with an attachment on the criteria that is needed.
Office phone: (262)52TOUCH
Email:info@touch5211lifestyleliving.com.

The winner will received free services from me and the ability the change your life forever!!!!

Sandra Kelley M.S. Education

Riverdale speaking engagement

2010-03-27T17:48:00.000-07:00

What a wonderful speaking engagement I had today. The women who attended made the most important step to improving their health, they came to the event. Whether they realize the huge step they made or not, the first crucial step to recreating your life is to "simply begin".

I spoke about the issues I went through, the hurt, pain and embarrassment of my past obesity. I spoke about the broken tubs I would cause because of the sheer mass of my weight, how I couldn't wear a seat belt, I had sleep apnea and so forth. The women felt comfortable and were able to ask questions, talk about their issues and what their struggles were.

I gave them helpful hints on improving first their mindset and how to then move onto other areas of their life. It is such a joy to help others see themselves in a more enlighten state. I thank God for the opportunity to share my story and to give back to my community. I will always take the time to reach back with free informational sessions so that those who need assistance are able to receive it. I often think back to when I was 450 pounds, I wanted to have someone to speak to me one on one about their experience and how they were able to do it. I didn't have the funds to reach out to those who were outspoken about their weight lost, so I always promised myself I would help those who needed me yet weren't able to afford my services.

It's important to give back the gift that God gave me, therefore,
lets TOUCH the world together!!!

Movie Days with Malcolm!!!

2010-03-26T17:41:00.000-07:00

The last two Fridays have been so much fun with Malcolm. I surprised him and picked him up early from school so that we could go to the movies together. I have been so busy in the last two weeks but Malcolm has done so well in school so I wanted to reward him.

He has fell in love with reading and he loves the Wimpy Kid series, and How to train a dragon is a movie we agreed we would go see.

It felt wonderful to love assignments and pressure behind and spend time with my favorite person....my sweetie pie Malcolm. I love you honey!!!

Question of the day

2010-03-20T17:28:00.000-07:00

We will begin our question for the day. This is for all who log in and want to be apart.I would like you to answer honestly and express how you truly feel. The questions' I will pose are to help you deal with all the emotions that are keeping your motivation low, self esteem weak and have lead to weight gain. This blog is to encourage each other and create new avenues for your life.

QUESTION
You are in a realtionship and your partner always talks about your weight in a negative way. How do you handle this? Do you loose weight to make the person you love happy or do you stay the way you are?

Thank you for all of your calls and emails!!

2010-03-20T14:59:00.000-07:00

There are no words to express the happiness I have concerning all the comments emailed to me and calls made to my office concerning the MSN article. There were so many people that were helped and blessed by what they read. It was so painful explaining what happened to me during the worst days of my life.

But because I am willing to expose the very issues that caused me to be buried in my own body, others will have the opportunity to live and prosper!!!

If your reading this and you feel as though there is no hope, continue believing and with determination your goals will be achieved.

YOU CAN DO IT because we will TOUCH the world together!!!

If you cant pull up the MSN story let me know

2010-03-18T12:27:00.001-07:00

If you arent able to view the story about my weight loss on MSN please let me know and I can email you the link or I am on Face bok and it's on my wall where you can read it.

My email is info@450poundstofreedom.com
Office number (262).52TOUCH

Sandra Kelley M.S. Education

MYWEIGHT LOSS STORY IS ON MSN!!

2010-03-18T12:19:00.000-07:00

I AM FEATURED ON MSN!!!!!!!

I can't believe it. I received a message on FB this morning from a young lady I have never met this morning saying that she loved my article on MSN. I said what article. She sent me the link and there is was the story about my life. I'm so happy because I truly want to be a wealth of information for those who are looking for someone to inspire them with their weight lost. I don't want them to be in the dark anymore, or to be alone anymore. I am there to encourage and inspire them to their next level. I'm so excited and amazed at how awesome God is!!!

Please click on the link below and I hope it leads you into movement towards your greatness!!

http://health.msn.com/weight-loss/slideshow.aspx?cp-documentid-100255595&imageindex=6

Preparation is key!!

2010-03-13T18:59:00.000-08:00

Today was a long day. I got up at 3:15am to get prepared for 5am prayer at church. I went and it as wonderful I love lifting God's name up in honor of all he has done for me and my son. I stayed around and talked for awhile and by the time I made it back home it was time to take my son to his CRCT testing boot camp at school. We did that and came back home. I had to so some work for my job and I took a much needed nap!! Because of my surgery there are times I become really tired, so naps sometimes are unavoidable, it's one of the small drawbacks of the surgery but I would do it again in a heartbeat.

I have reached out to different arenas to speak concerning my business so that I can help as many as I can concerning their weight. All of this along with closing out the semester for my Masters Degree in Addiction counseling. So I have been busy but I wouldn't have it any other way. There were time I begged God to give me purpose in my life.

Tomorrow will be busy I am teaching Children's church and I will do some more work for my job. Today was a good day and next week will be even better.

Mr. Malcolm Kelley

2010-03-01T17:35:00.000-08:00

What a joy my son brings me. I decided to write a entry just about him. He has been out of the hospital for a week from a condition that God healed him from.

I am so grateful what obedience can do. Many don't understand why I constantly make sure Malcolm keeps his attitude right, or why I involve him with my servant hood unto God through our church, or why I closely monitor what he watches on TV and how he speaks to others. It is because I am ensuring he will be a "man" with integrity who loves and fears God.

I love homeschooling him and spending his formative years together with him. I am so proud of the work he does weekly on blog talk radio the T.O.U.C.H. 52:11 show. He speaks every week on healthy tips for children. He makes me laugh and while I am always encouraging others he constantly encourages me. So he deserved the spot light for today.

MOMMIE LOVES YOU MAL!!!

The water in the middle of the drought

2010-02-25T18:26:00.000-08:00

I have been so busy ensuring that the foundation for my business it formulated the correct way. It amazing I am surround by people who have their own "business" but very few who are creating them in the correct way. Having ideas about how a business should be run without the correct credentials will come back to haunt you. My Bishop often speaks about creating something for not just you but for generations after you. That it is imperative to leave a "legacy". Thus, I have researched information on non-profit organizations, the difference with registered names versus business that are Incorporated and believe me it is alot of information but I know I can do it. I am walking purely on faith and nothing else.

The picture above shows an example of my everyday walk. The outside is dry, cracked, has no color and seems to be bearing no fruit. But my vision is the water in the drought. It will surpass everything that is around me and will continue to spread. So as I dive into everything that is needed for the foundation of my business I will constantly looked toward that water and look beyond where my eyes can see and follow the eyes of the spirit and see it as Endless!!

My tire Blew Out on the expressway!!!

2010-02-21T17:58:00.000-08:00

I couldn't believe it but my tire blew on a busy expressway today. I waited two hours for the tow truck to come, and then had to be towed to get a new tire. I reach the business 10 minutes before they closed!!! Then I had to wait another one 1/2 for them to fix it. I missed the 6pm service at church and wasn't able to do a favor for a friend. It was crazy. Oh I forgot the battery on my phone almost went out!! But I made it safely and my son and I are safe.

The enemy is so mad because this morning I gave him glory for healing my son this week when he had to stay in the hospital. BUT I was alone to hold it together, my stress level wasn't maxed out and the feeling to overeat didn't manifest. I thought about the wonderful things that God is doing for my life. How I wasn't in an accident, how I made it safe and sound.

As my son said, we had pressure but we made it!!

Hanging on

2010-02-19T17:54:00.000-08:00

What God has given to me as a vision seems so large, so important for others, so life altering at times I wonder how I will be able to achieve it all. When I saw this picture I thought of my vision. It's huge, but just like the climber I must chip away at it step by step. There will be so many who don't understand and many who feel I should stop putting all of my past about obesity out there for all to hear and to stop telling about the most emabarrsing events in my life.

But I know that telling about my low self esteem, and my low self worth will help save others who can't motivate themselves. I don't want those who have a low impression of themselves because of their weight to give up. They need to know there are people out there who have successfully lost the weight and now enjoy life as never before.

I know for some after loosing masses amounts of weight they never want to revisit their former obese life. But going back to the time in my life that was the hardest is a joy for me because I know others are being blessed by it.

I will continue to climb that mountain, higher and higher until I reach the top. But once I reach the top I won't get comfortable. I will begin yelling from the rooftop about the dangers of obesity and how past hurts and tramua can cause the addiction of obesity to take place.

Whatever your issue is.. depression, weight, drug use, alcholism etc.. keep climbing, keep going until you reach the top.

Once you get there reach down and help others get to the top!!

My Valentine

2010-02-14T18:43:00.000-08:00

Here is my true valentine!!!

My son Malcolm called my mother and had her pick him up to go and get my valentines day gift. He went and surprised me with the "This Is It" movie and a beautiful card. He was so excited he was able to do something for me.
I thank God for such a caring, loving and affectionate son. He cares so much about how I feel and wanted to do something nice for me.

I love you Mal!! mommie thanks you so much for all your love!!!

LOVE is mine too

2010-02-14T18:24:00.000-08:00

What a wonderful day!!! Valentines the day for love. I have come such a long way. I once hated this holiday. I felt so alone, I felt I would never have anyone to share my day with, no cards, valentine candy or special moments. Even when I was married I never received anything from my ex-husband I didn't think enough of myself to demand respect from him. I felt I was obese and I should just be happy that I was married and if I received anything in return I should be lucky.

Now I love myself!! I am my own valentine and I love to love myself. I realize the more I love me the more I open the door for someone else to love me. I am not alone I am just getting myself prepared for the true love of my life. I AM BEAUTIFUL, I AM WORTH IT. What is in store for me is awesome and true. I'm excited for what God has for me.

So as you see other couples today celebrate them be happy for them. Because what you celebrate in others God will create the same for you.

Happy Valentines Day!!

Wonderment of God!!

2010-02-11T19:28:00.000-08:00

Through the stress of the day, and all my issues of life sometimes we think that our problems are major. You need to step away from what is going on in your life and look at the bigger picture. There is so much more that God has done for us. He is so much more massive than we give him credit for. God wants to expand our territory to places we have never been. There is so much more for us to discover. Make yourself aware of the "wonderment" of God. Allow him to move you into places that you never thought you could go.

I never thought that the pain I endured because of my obesity, was truly a source for others. As I speak to groups and consult others I have to continuously put my past on glare for all to see. But as I look at the greater good of God I know I am doing exactly what my purpose is.

The next time the things of life seem to big for you to handle and there seems to be no end in sight, look towards the beauty the Lord has created and understand there is so much more than your seeing. Go search for it.
THE TIME IS NOW!!!

Soaring!!!

2010-02-09T18:39:00.000-08:00

The eagle flies alone and high. Yet they have eyes of exactness. My goal is no matter what is going on around me I want to have eyes of complete focus. I want to zero in on what my mission and assignment is and have an eyesight that is like no other.

My vision attaches itself to only those things that are meaningful and purposeful. There is no turning back and I will have the ability to notice only those things that will cause my vision to go forth with clarity and maximum ability.
My ears only hear the sound of the winds speaking to me and the mountains are falling all around me. I am flying high, with nothing there to get in my way.

I'M SOARING!!!

T.O.U.C.H. 52:11 Inspirational CD's

2010-02-05T17:39:00.000-08:00

Today was such a joy. I began creating the inspirational CD's for my business T.O.U.C.H. 52:11. It is a labor of love for me because I am fulfilling the vision God has given me. I am blessed to work with Chris Stevens who is assisting me with putting all the background music together.

The CD's that are being produced are Motivational, Encouraging, Focus,and Vision. These CD's are ones you can mediate to, become inspired to increase your self esteem, and learn how to achieve your dreams.

I have a zeal about helping those who will benefit from my minstry. It feels so wonderful to help others. MORE IS TO COME!!

True Friends see your Vision

2010-01-30T17:01:00.000-08:00

There are no words for friendship.

It can either be one of fulfillment or one of non purpose. My friendship with Karen has always been one of uplift. She has encouraged me, kept me focused, and shown me the authority I have that I wasn't aware of. It is a friendship in which I learn something everyday.

Karen understands my purpose with my business T.O.U.C.H. 52:11. She knows that the vision God has given me isn't about me but about all of those individuals who feel lost.

So Karen I THANK YOU SO MUCH!! for all you do and for who you are.

There is something behind the darkness!!

2010-01-29T13:52:00.000-08:00

The darkness always consumed me. This is how I saw my days when I woke up. Everything was gloomy and sad. I couldn't get through those clouds. I felt as though I would never get to the other side of all that darkness. It kept me from having the ability to know that goodness was coming. Through focus,dedication and encouragement those clouds will eventually move.

Don't let the pain interrupt what you were born to do. Close your eyes and see yourself beyond the clouds, see the sun coming out just for you. Know the wind blows in your direction to speak to you and instruct you. If you are in a state in your life that you are no longer looking up, do so today!!! Those dark clouds can only stay if you allow them to. Push them out of the way and go for what is being hidden which is the treasure within you!!

The Love Of A Mother

2010-01-28T16:40:00.000-08:00

What a wonderful time I had with my mother and son last week at lunch. We laughed, talked non-stop and truly enjoyed one another. My mother is such a source of strength for me. She has taught me so many wonderful aspects concerning being a women. She has also been there for me in the worst and best of times.

She never let's me feel sorry for myself, and she never let's me have a pity party. When people see me or hear me at speaking events, they often feel I did it alone, but the truth is her words of stay strong with me don't give up, stay with it, ring true in my mindset.

As I watch her with my son, I see how much he loves her and that she is instilling the same confidence in him. I thank the Lord daily for her wisdom and guidance.

The Love Of a Mother is true, sure and everlasting

Love you mom!!!!!!

Which smile is real?

2010-01-24T17:54:00.000-08:00

Loving life and Going forward.
I went to lunch with my mother last week and I snapped the picture in the pink. When I looked at the picture I couldn't believe what I saw. I have pictures of myself stuck in my head of all the pictures I have ever taken. No matter how much I have changed, I still have the old me in my head. In the picture of me in the black, I was struggling to find the new me, the whats next. I was confused and in limbo.

But seeing this picture of myself last week I felt so beautiful!! I was able to take in the structure of my face, the smoothness of my skin and my true smile in the picture.
All of my pictures of me in the past, show me smiling but I felt like I was dying inside. But I could see in this picture that my smile is my happiness on the inside and outside. I feel proud of myself because I know The best is yet to come!!
Don't assume that those smiling are not hurting, search and ask how they are, are they in need of encouragement? Because things are not always as they seem.

So which smile is real? The one of me now, I have complete joy!!

Family First

2010-01-20T11:07:00.000-08:00

As we celebrated Martin Luther King Jr. this week, I was awestruck when I found this picture. We often see Martin away from home, helping others, serving others and doing for others. But what we need to remember is that family should always comes first.

Loosing weight allowed many doors to first open in my mindset, then open in my life. I developed the self confidence to move forward on my dreams. I was physically able to do what I wasn't able to do before. My life now enables me to volunteer at my church, complete my Masters in Education, and I working on a second Masters in Addiction now. I home school my son and have my business T.O.U.C.H. 52:11. There are many who say Sandra you're doing too much, or Sandra you shouldn't drag your son everywhere you go. But I always remember the love and structure I put in my life, is the love and structure he will put in his.

The above picture shows the love MLK had for his family. So for all of you single parents, don't let other's tell you that you shouldn't pursue your dreams and your visions. You are creating a strength in your children that will never be erased.

IS YOUR TREE BEARING FRUIT?

2010-01-17T18:53:00.000-08:00

When God has given you a vision that you are to use and encourage others, it may sometimes seem as though you are alone and not understood.

When you begin working the vision you may not be able to "touch" the things you need. But continue to work the vision because everything you need is within yourself. Don't be a bare tree that isn't producing fruit. Know that you may not have all the money you need, you may not have the help you would like for your vision, but the most important ingredient you need favor and wisdom.

Once you have favor and wisdom that bare tree will begin to produce fruit. The only way this will happen is if you put the time in networking and educating yourself in the areas that you may be lacking.

Go for your vision, produce that fruit, don't leave that tree bare!!!!Stay encouraged!!

The Beauty of Being Alone

2010-01-12T19:27:00.000-08:00

When I was obese I tryed to do everything I could to keep people around me. I never wanted to be alone. I understood being alone meant that I would have to face all of those strongholds that were keeping me down. I knew my mind would be quiet and I would have to be honest with myself. I would have to look at all of the difficulties head on. Therefore, I was never alone which was a huge mistake. It caused me to live through the lives of others instead of living through my own.

But The Beauty of Being Alone, is that I can now live the way I was truly created. I can now stand alone and not be afraid to stand apart from everyone. God has created a butterfly that is ready to fly!!! That tree may not have any one around her, but now that all the distractions are gone that tree can spread her branches and grow without limits.

I shall push forward, continue to seek God for wisdom and ask Him for continued creativity for my business. Because I now know that tree can change the world!!!

"Time means Change" embrace it

2010-01-09T16:53:00.000-08:00

Today was a very busy day for me. I woke up a little later than usual because my body was hurting from my run on Thursday but I felt good about it. It was funny but as I was getting dressed this morning I looked down and noticed my stomach went down more than the last time I looked. I felt so good and I was proud of myself.

I sat down at my laptop and opened it up to my homepage and saw that MSN is having a success stories entry category for those who have had weight lost. I decided to enter and sat for the next two hours and wrote my story about my life. I added information about my business and how important I believe my business is for others. I will be anxiously awaiting to see how that turns out.

I had my sorority sister find me today on Face Book. She made me feel so good because she said she looked for Sandra Bailey Kelley everywhere and she kept seeing my picture but didn't recognize me. She finally took a chance and went ahead and responded. I posted a picture of myself from college so that she could recognize me. It is a feeling that I always wanted. I was so tired of hearing people say to me when I was obese that I had such a pretty face. It was if nothing else on me existed. Bu now people notice all of me. It is a great feeling but also a scary one. It is a feeling of nakedness. If I would have had a normal teenage years it would have been a regular part of my women hood, but I skipped over all of that. At age 37 I am just now experiencing these feelings.

But Time Means Change and I'm am embracing it. I understand it's OK to listen to people tell me I'm beautiful, it's OK to feel good about myself, it's wonderful to dream and even better to know that all my suffering will assist someone else. I don't want them to feel the pain I felt. The best way for me to help is to share my testimony.

Snow Day!!!

2010-01-08T08:51:00.000-08:00

What a beautiful day!! My son woke me this morning and was excited about playing in the snow. It worked really well for us because we are studying Science today for his studies and it worked hand in hand. I made him put on two pants, shirts, socks, a scarf, gloves, hat and a coat!! He had me laughing because all he said he couldn't breathe because of all the clothes!! But I followed suit and did the same and dressed in multiple clothes. But as I was getting dressed I was so happy that I could wear two pants at one time.

When I was obese I wouldn't be able to do that. I would have gone outside and been cold. Once outside we played with one another, threw snowballs and just had fun. I am grateful that I am able to do these things with him, that I am still here, that I have the energy, that I can bend over to pick up the snow without being uncomfortable. Every day is a good day. I am hurting today from my 4 miles that I ran yesterday but it feels good to know I accomplished it.

Remember what it felt like when you were a child when it snowed? Feel that again and go outside if only for a minute and enjoy the beauty of the day!!

Leaving the old me, and learning to love the new me

2010-01-07T17:07:00.000-08:00

As I think about the old me( the picture of me in the green is at 405 lbs) and the new me. I become sad about all the time that I wasted. I wasn't able to be a cheerleader, or run during field day, or have a boyfriend in school like all of my other friends. My activities were limited and I had no confidence in myself. I held all of my hurtful emotions in and never expressed how much I was hurting.

I prayed to look the way I do now. I still have 450 mind moments in which I forget that I have lost so much weight. I must remind myself when I go out that people are looking at me because they like what they see not because they are disgusted by my over stretched body. Even as I look at my new body, I am learning who I am. I have never been the size I am now and it is taking time for me to appreciate my waist, hips and especially my curves. As a women you begin to learn how to love your curves beginning in high school. I woke up one day and had them!! It's is a journey that is new for me everyday and I pray I am handling it with dignity and class.

For all of you that are trying to learn yourself through your transition, take it day by day. Appreciate the moments and Love Yourself!!!

Seeing beyond the pain

2010-01-07T16:55:00.000-08:00

Today was a really prosperous day. I got alot done and I feel good about what I accomplished. I always plan my days to be sure there is a daily focused. Malcolm's teaching went well he really loved social studies which was my favorite while I was in school. The radio show went well and was informative and I went to run my 4 miles today on the treadmill and I felt so good and energized. I always make sure to concentrate on how my inner core feels. I even practice controlling my posture as I run. I beat my time for my run from Tuesday I was so excited.

I chose the photo you see because when I run I don't think about the pain, or how tired I am I just think about the distance I'm covering, the beauty of feeling like I'm flying. When I weighed 450 pounds I would have dreams about how it would feel to run. To be able to experience it is such a joy. I wish that freedom for everyone is suffers from obesity. You must have a picture in your head of where your running to and loose yourself. I'm so thankful and appreciative to God for the experience.

T.O.U.C.H. 52:11 radio show for today "How to Avoid on the job weight gain'

2010-01-07T09:44:00.000-08:00

Today on the radio show I spoke on How to avoid on the job weight gain. It was a great show. I gave some great tips on how to create Lifestyle Living for 2010. I talked about the following:

Be sure to eat-throughout the day keep some type of snack at your desk. Be sure to first eat a good breakfast and lunch.

Compensate-get some type of physical activity throughout the day. Get some fitness equipment, take a walk, or park a little further away from your job and walk to your building.

Reword your network- get others involved in your motivation to live a healthier lifestyle.

Don't eat due to boredom-keep water at your desk when you become stressed, stay away from the vending machine and don't give in to emotional eating

Lose Technology- it has made us lazy. Get up from your desk to speak to co-workers instead of sending texts or emails.

I also spoke about Functional Fitness how to stay flexible no matter your age. If you missed the show log onto blog talk radio and enter TOUCH 52:11 and download the show from today or any other show that I have done. Leave your comments on how you feel about the best way to keep up with your routine while at work.

Remember Let's TOUCH the world together!!

Busy Morning but I'm going to run 4 miles!!

2010-01-07T09:09:00.000-08:00

I just completed a very busy morning. I home school my son and we focused on social studies today. I taught him about New York, Central Africa, as well as, Bible. We ended class by Reading a chapter of Proverbs. I have him read a chapter a day to ensure he receive wisdom from God and I read a chapter during my prayer time in the early morning. Afterwards Malcolm practiced on his Healthy Tips that he does on my radio show on blog talk radio Thursdays at 11:30am. I decided to incorporate him with my business so that he too will have a business mindset. He loves it and it helps him with his memorization, and speaking abilities. He did very well today. I'm so proud of him. I am now off to work out. The plan to is to run 4 miles. I did so Tuesday and it took me a little over an hour. So the plan is to do it again today. I am working towards running greater lengths to prepare myself for another marathon in early spring. My hips are truly hurting from the run on Tuesday but that's just apart of the process!!

What it feels like to wear shorts

2010-01-06T19:47:00.000-08:00

Many people wonder what owning millions of dollars feel like, some wonder what that perfect dress would feel like I wanted to know how it would feel to wear shorts and feel the sun on my skin. Being obese all my life I couldn't wear jeans or shorts. I hated the summer time because I was always so uncomfortable. Being obese I would always sweat, my skin would get terrible rashes that would get infected and there was nothing I could do.
When I took this picture last summer, I felt so free to have my legs and arms out. I often go outside in the summer and stand in the sun so I can feel what those rays feels like. I was able to watch my skin tone change colors and become darker. It was the most fascinating thing I had every experienced.
When you see an obese person don't just look at their overstretched body. Think about all of the dreams that are just sitting inside of them. If you are one of those person who think it can never happen for you, believe me it can. Don't Give Up!!!

Me at 380 pounds

2010-01-06T19:38:00.000-08:00

I often refer to this picture to remind myself how far I have come. I took this picture in 2006. I was smiling but I was miserable. I couldn't breathe, I would break bath tubs because of my weight, my breast were so large that I couldn't sleep on my back because they would choke me. I was unhappy in my marriage and didn't know how to get out. All of this after I spent thousands for the gastric bypass and I gained most of the weight back. But I know hold on to this picture because of the possibilities of what the mind can do. But I continue to hold on to this picture so I will never forget........

Experience of Sea World

2010-01-06T18:57:00.000-08:00

I was blessed and was given a trip to Florida in Oct. I had the time of my life. ,When my son and I went to Sea World I couldn't get over how wonderful I felt that I could walk around the entire park with no problem. I knew if I didn't have the gastric bypass in 1997 I may not be here to experience the fun. I was 450 pounds 13 years ago without the surgery I am sure I would be at least 700 pounds by now if I wouldn't have died from the weight. I was gaining weight so fast that I could no longer control it.
Thinking of all of that I was grateful just to have fun and not worry about the what ifs!!!

Malcolm wearing a $500 wrestling belt

2010-01-06T18:54:00.000-08:00

I had to add this picture of my son when we went to WWE wretling. There was a very nice gentelman who allowed my son to take a picture with his $500.00 wrestling belt!!! Malcolm was so happy to wear it!!

Auntie of the year!!

2010-01-06T18:50:00.000-08:00

I was auntie of the year for the Christmas parties. I went to my nephews Christmas party. I really had a good time and of course my son loved being with his cousin. Since I home school my son he goes everywhere with me and he thought the party was awesome. I love the family life and I do whatever I can to be sure the kids feel loved.

Not able to enjoy eating at Thanksgiving dinner!!

2010-01-06T18:43:00.000-08:00

This is myself and my sister at Thanksgiving. I had such a wonderful time at my mothers house with the family especially the kids. It is much different for me now that I have lost 200 pounds and have had weight loss surgery. I am not able to eat like everyone else. I couldn't enjoy the foods that they enjoyed. I had to make the best of it and not let it depress me. I have learned fellowship with family is much better than food.
I actually can smell the smells and become full. It's a technique that I had to master over the years but it works!!!

Me and Michael

2010-01-06T17:44:00.000-08:00

The greatest performer of all time Micheal Jackson. I went to see This Is It and it was wonderful!! I went with my mother and son and it was like going to a concert. It was fun to do something I don't usually have the time to do Something for myself. If you haven't seen it you have to. One of the best statements Micheal made was everyone always asks the question "when are they going to fix that problem or who is going to come to their rescue" he then said we need to stop asking who is going to do it and do it ourselves. He demonstrated pure perfection. Here I am with my Michael Jackson doll I bought when I was 12!! I never took it out of the box. A man offered me $500.00 for it

My son at WWE

2010-01-06T17:06:00.000-08:00

I am updating you on what has been going on in my world. I was blessed to take my son to WWE wrestling show live in Columbus Ga. It was great and he was overjoyed. There were sooo many people but I think I enjoyed it more than my son :)
The great thing for me is that I was able to sit in a chair and not worry about if I would fit or not. No one around me knew of my story but it felt so good to know I was able to blend in like everyone else. Most importantly my son had the time of his life!!

Stressful day!!

2010-01-06T16:06:00.000-08:00

Today was very stressful for me. I began my day with my laptop having problems, my son didn't want to do his work for his home school assignments, I had to run out in the middle of the morning to get a disk for virus to fix my computer. Then by the time I got back I had to leave again to take my son to the doctor.
Afterwards, coming home we sat in traffic, and I had to stop by my moms office. It was so much for me.

I had a moment today in which I remembered the old me. I would have immediately over ate and binged off food to deal with my stress. Instead of that I immediately came home got on my computer did some communication for my business and thought about why I was stressed so that I could calm down. I truly amazes me what a difference change in thought makes!!!

I am going to work on writing in my book, my story on my weight and what caused the obesity. I am on the section about the life with my ex-husband which is the hardest part. This is where I gained all 200 pounds back. But I can do it!!